Ladies Shall be Firstly Respected
(Translated by Conglong and Edited by Kaer)
January 24, 2014
Women have been suffering discrimination for thousands of years, and their positions are quite low in both marriage and society. Although the development of society has raised the value of women, within marriage, traditional families, and society, they still belong to a disadvantaged group and their values are not acknowledged. Their dignity has been denied and their safety is still not guaranteed, and this can be proven by the amounts of domestic violence and sexual abuse.
There have been many women living in the Second Home, the middle-aged are the majority, who have shown that women are awakening and they are not willing to be ruled and discriminated against. Instead, they want to lead dignified, meaningful, and free lives.
In the Second Home, we have implement the value that, “the positions of men and women are reversed and women should be firstly respected”. The rights, safety, and dignity of women are fully guaranteed. You cannot see women being bullied or discriminated against, and there are no more heavy household chores for women, but they can put their talents into full play. Each woman has her own space which is free from disturbance and it is unnecessary to lock her door at any time because nobody is allowed to enter into a woman’s room without her permission, and nobody dares to sexually harass a woman. Besides, there are no “leaders” who will impose their will on women and all things are done voluntarily. Women do not need to worry about the care of seniors or the education of children because the community takes full responsibility for those chores. There are no more conflicts between women and mothers-in-law or sisters-in-law. On the contrary, they have many close sisters with whom to chat, play, study, and work.
In Lifechanyuan, women should be firstly respected in all situations. Women are the lotuses, and men are the green leaves.
1. Men are not allowed to contend with women.
2. Men should be willing to and be brave enough to sacrifice for women.
3. It is fine for women to seduce men, but men are not allowed to sexually harass women.
4. Under any dangerous circumstances, men should be in front to protect women.
5. Women take precedence over men in the matter of enjoyment.
6. Men shall take the initiative in doing heavy and dirty tasks, while light and clean work shall be reserved for women.
7. Men are not permitted to humiliate, desecrate, abuse, beat, maltreat, persecute, scorn, or deride women.
8. Men are not permitted to limit women's personal freedoms in the name of love, physically or spiritually.
Experience has shown that having the value that “women should be firstly respected”, all female members feel very happy and safe, and almost none of them are willing to go back to their traditional lives.
The community also becomes more harmonious this way, because women are naturally more quiet and peaceful, and they like harmony and serenity. They are naturally kind and loving with soft and big hearts.
Women are firstly respected means that men are not allowed to seduce women in this community. In the aspect of sexuality, women have the great freedom of being able to take the initiative, which is good to foster their independence, and will eventually be helpful for their spiritual development and sublimation.
Women are firstly respected also means that men are passive in love. This is good for men to cultivate their personalities. “Butterfly will come when the flower scents”. It is only when a man is becoming perfect and he brings happiness and joy to women that his appearance becomes enjoyable, and therefore welcomed by all women.
As a woman in the Second Home, I often have the feeling of being cared for and loved. I feel very blessed.
In fact, when a women feels happy, men will be happy too.
when a woman is happy, the man is also happy
women's safety and freedom are fully guaranteed
light jobs are reserved for women
women are flowers, and men are the leaves
we are happy women!
men are brave enough to be in front
I am happy to do the dirty job!